Responding to Anger

Everyone can recall the unpleasant experience of being around an angry person. Today, I thought I’d brainstorm how we might respond to angry people. (We are assuming we are NOT the angry person.)

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Typically, the worst way to respond to an angry person is with more anger. Resist the urge. It usually makes matters worse. This is also NOT the time to try and use reason. Emotions are too hot to engage in a rational conversation.

So, let’s begin by peeking in Proverbs. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (15:1). Try to keep your volume down and your tone respectful and calm. This is probably not the time to share your opinion. It may help to show empathy and try to relate to their point of view or understand their circumstances.

Other times, it’s best not to say anything at all. Just, zip it! Perhaps, the best thing you can do is give the angry person some alone time and space to cool off. This may be an opportunity to put yourself in a ‘time out’ so you don’t escalate the problem and so that you can take some time alone with God.

Be still and go to the Lord in prayer. Dump your emotions, hurts, confusion, and mistakes on Him first. Take time to seek God’s wisdom, guidance, and peace.

Finally, be aware. Is there a need you can help meet, an act of love that will help smooth things over? Remember, “Love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8b). Jesus’s half-brother summed it up well, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).

Let’s aim to live by those words.


About Arrow

Hi and welcome! My pen name is Arrow. The word “arrow” intrigues me because it has two meanings that describe my passions. One, it is an instrument used intentionally to reach a target, and two, it shows the way. As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, my goals are to live for Him, lead others to Him, and glorify the Heavenly Father. I pray that the stories, poems, song lyrics, and devotional thoughts I share on this website will always be inspired by the Holy Spirit and aligned with the truths found in God’s Word. My hope is that the words may penetrate your heart and point the way to a closer relationship with the Savior. I look forward to sharing my journey with you. Experiencing what God has in store is bound to be exciting! May you be blessed! ~ Arrow
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